A segment from Moushegh Ishkhan’s book
titled “Good Bye Childhood”. Translated and abridged by Vahe H. Apelian, 4 May 2013
We will separate.
I do not know how could we possibly separate? I have opened my
eyes and seen all of us under the same roof. True, there were two mothers over
us - Mayrig and Hadji Mama -, both, however, were equally endearing not only to me, but also to
my sister and brother as well. I understood a bit more than they did, as to
what it meant a mother who gave birth and a mother who adopted. My sister and
brother did not know as much.
Hadji Mama was the mother who gave birth to me. She was to travel to another
country taking her two children. I was not one of them. I belonged to the woman
who was the more authoritative whose name was simply Mayrig for all of us. I had been
gifted to her from the moment I was born. Official registrations had been
prepared that way. In front of God, the Church and the Government I was
recognized as the son of Mayrig.
“What difference does it make?” Had said my own father, gifting me
to his brother. “Aren’t we in the same house? Are we not going to live together
under the same roof until death does us apart? Let this lad be yours and bear
your name. God will grant me more children.” He had assured him.
I was his firstborn child.
After me, God gave my own father two other children, my sister and
my brother. They were born during our years of exodus.
”Such loving brothers are rarely seen on this world” would say Mayrig and would add with a
limitless love and reverence, “May God pity his soul, may he rest in His glory;
may God reward him at his heart’s measure”.
What did Hadji Mayrig think when she was looking at me? Did she ever have any regret?
Did she feel pain or happiness? Not a word was said in that regard. She was a
17 years old new bride in the household when I was gifted to her
brother-in-law. She had no say then. Now that we were on the verge of
separating for good, she still remained silent and meek.
Had her husband been alive………………
How was the poor man to know that the world was going to get up
side down a year after my birth; that the established orders would be destroyed
and cast them into ruin and that an entire nation would be uprooted caravan
after caravan?
During their years of exodus the two brothers had not separated
from each other. The elder brother, the one who had adopted me, had taken the
brunt of the Turkish brutality to protect and safeguard his younger brother and
keep him alive. Alas, what the forces of evil had not been able to accomplish,
fate had ordained otherwise. Death had separated the two brothers right at the
very time when an armistice was being signed and a glimmer of hope was
returning. My own father had passed away due to a crisis of his heart. In due
time, the elder brother had resumed his second exodus over again, this time
around because of the menace of the Kemalist movement and had left his own
widow behind to accompany her widowed sister-in-law.
The two mothers with their combined three children had continued
to live together much like bosom sisters. They had bore their ordeal together
up to this point. Now they were to go their separate ways.
Hadji Mama was acting like the guilty party. She sought to justify her
decision to separate. What could she do otherwise? Her mother, my maternal
grandmother whom I did not know and her brother were sending letter after
letter from Greece asking her to collect her children and join them there.
There were no husband and brother-in-law left. Why would she live by herself in
a remote corner of Damascus when she had a mother, a brother and a sister
waiting for her return. They would be together and would console each other.
“You are absolutely right” Mayrig would say, “do not ever
feel chagrined. Collect your family and go and be with your mother. There could
not be any person substituting her.”
“That is true” would reply Hadji Mama, “but you will be left alone,
it would be difficult for you”.
“What am I to do? It’s my fate. Should you sacrifice all
your life for that?” Mayrig would respond. There were tears in Hadji Mama’s eyes. My children’s
instincts told me that her great sorrow was because of me. She would be leaving
a part of her heart and would be going away for good, most likely not ever to
see me again. However, she did not articulate. Any reference attesting to her maternal
love would be regarded tantamount to having sinned without any recourse for
penance. It was an issue long resolved. I was Mayrig’s son.
The days of our separation remain etched in my memory with the
following picture. It was dark. The kerosene lantern barely illuminated the
faces and the things in the room cast shadows on the walls. At a far corner cross-legged sat a compatriotic elderly woman, Soghome’
Khatoun. Hadji Mama and Mayring presented her all they had as household items – spoon, folk,
plate, cup, brass utensils for cooking food, etc. Soghome’ Khatoun acted like an arbiter. We
children looked wide eyed as how she divided the goods into two piles, few cups
here, few cups there, two small kettles on one side and a large kettle on the
other side. She then looked at the two mothers.
Come and make your choice…..
Mayrig differed to Hadji Mama to be the first to make the choice. Hadji Mama refused to make her choice
known and continued to sob instead.
“It was not meant to be this way.” Said Haji
Mama. “Why would they end up separating us from each other? Cursed be
to those who brought us to this situation.”
The time came to divide the mattresses, the pillows and the few
clothing they had. Soghome Khatoun’s hands shivered over them. They too needed to be
divided equally among the inheritors of the inseparable two brothers.
“Come on, make your choices” uttered Soghome Khatom.
“Little bride, make the choice and take at your heart’s content,”
said Mayrig.
Hadji Mama was indifferent. She was
physically present but she was absent in soul and in gaze. Was it the memory of
her young husband that troubled her soul? Or was it the call of her mother and
brother that had distracted her? Soghome Khatoun finished her task and was
ready to leave. She stood up with an air of contentment having accomplished a
difficult task as best as she could.
“I think it was an equitable division. No one’s rights were
trampled.” She said.
“Oh, Soghome Khatoum, who is looking after the few pieces we have. The things we left
behind and moved on”, said Mayrig.
“That is very true, but it is much more difficult to fairly divide
the little, than it is to divide the more”, said Soghome Khatoum.
After Soghome Khatoum left, Mayrig secured the door of the
room, pulled the curtains over the windows and told us to sleep. My sister and
my bother fell asleep soon after. They should have been tired witnessing the
unusual happening that may have stirred their childhood imaginations and tired
them. I lay on my place, but I did not fall asleep. I sensed that the two
mothers had unfinished business to attend in secret from us. Rightfully so, in
the middle of the night they silently undid the edge of a mattress and pulled
out a small bag. I solved the riddle right away. It was Myarig’s famed belt purse that she
bore wrapped on her body. Through the years it had dwindled to that small bag.
My curiosity took better hold of me and I wanted to see the sight of the
glittering gold and hear their clicking sound to know how many of them were
left. But I pretended to be asleep.
Mayrig looked around her to make sure that there was no one
secretly eying her treasure. She emptied the bag and held its content in the
palm of her hand. Was it a palm full or not? I was not sure. It was only the
clicking of the gold that reached my ears. Mayrig sighed and murmured in a
low voice.
“Everything has gone, this all that has remained. Half is yours
and half is mine. This is all that has remained for us to raise our children”
“This will not take us far. I will spend part of it towards our
travel expenses.” Said Hadji Mama with some desperation.
“What can we do?” Replied Mayrig. “ Even so we should be
thankful that the children would not starve for some time”. Then she added “What
is to say to those who do not even have this much?”
“As soon as I reach, I will start working,” said Hadji
Mama.
“Your brother will be your keeper” assured Mayrig.
“I do not want to be burden on anyone else”. Said Hadji
Mama
“God is great. God will surely open a door”. Replied Mayrig.
The division is done and finished. I knew that nothing else has
remained to divide. The real division however happened the next day at the
train station. The division there was not over goods but over souls. Three of
us, my niece, the daughter of my father’s sister, Mayrig, and I were at the train
station. Three of them, Hadji Mama, my sister and my brother were on the train. We were the ones who
were staying put, they were the ones who were leaving.
“Do not let us remain looking forward for your letters, write soon
and frequently.” Repeatedly said Myrigwiping her tears.
“Done” said Hadji Mama with course voice. “I will write and you may come as well and we
would be together again”.
“Why not, little bride, who else do I have besides you?” Said Mayrig and added, “If you remain
content, I will take my son and join you”.
“My son”, that is I. The blue eyes of Hadji
Mama in the wagon remained transfixed on me with an unexplainable
sadness. I sense a deep tragedy unfolding as the siren of the steam engine
alerted those present of the imminent journey. My sister and my brother did not
seem to grasp the situation. They were teary as well and yet they looked happy
as well. Had not Mayrig bought them candy and chocolate to eat when the train would be on
the move?
If Providence would have given me the liberty to make my choice at
that very moment and had they asked me then whom would I chose - my own mother
or my adopted mother? What would have been my answer? I have not been
placed in such a situation before, but had I been placed, I would have chosen
without the slightest doubt my adoptive mother.
It may sound strange and incomprehensible to some, but it is what
it is. I loved Hadji Mama greatly who was infinitely good, meek and beautiful. She was
younger and more presentable in society than Mayrig. She knew how to read and
write and spoke a fluent literary Armenian. Mayrig, on the other hand, had no
schooling and spoke in local dialect. She was more authoritative and less
compromising. From appearances to manners she was a true representation of a
woman from the interior of the country. In spite of these, she was the one who
had mothered me. My first smile and utterance of ‘mama’ were directed to her.
She was the one who stood by my cradle in my sick days and I was a sickly
child, watching over me with an unconditional love.
It was no secret to me that Hadji Mama had given birth to me and
had breastfed me for the very first few months. She had continued to live in
the same household as the “little bride” and as a grown up sister. Hadji
Mama, that angelic woman had restrained herself not to call me her
child or her kid. She had deprived herself the pleasure of hugging her
firstborn son lest she would inflict a wound to her sister-in-law.
Our separation became final. Hardly Hadji Mama arrived to Greece,
she repatriated to Armenia with the rest of her family at large. It took 37
long years for the “gates of hope” to open up. In 1962 I became fortunate to
visit Yerevan and hug my own mother, my own sister and my own brother. My
mother and I had aged. Hadji Mama had weathered trying and difficult times to raise her two children
and make a person of each. All by herself she had managed to have her two
children graduate from college and become respectable individuals.
Mayrig and Hadji Mama never got the chance of
seeing each other again. Fate had ordained differently for both. A year after
our reunion, Hadji Mama was planning to visit us in Beirut when she passed away
unexpectedly. Mayrig passed away as well in the same time frame after a long illness.
This is how the final act of our lives ended. Nowadays my sister
and brother have established families of their own in our Mother Fatherland. I
remain a child of the Diaspora. Two Mothers as well as two States for those of
us from the same blood. This time around it is not only familial but also
national………..
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